Stories and Testimonials

Stories and Testimonials

John

People

“We were about to kill each other, but now we are in the honey moon”. (John-this is a false name to keep anonymity, a 45 years old male who attended the healing journey with his wife). John was married to a 38 years old female for 12 years, with 5 children. Their daily life was business oriented, and they were working hard to develop their family. Surprisingly after a few years together, they got embroiled in a serious family conflict leading to their separation for 7 years. Several local leaders’ attempts to reconcile them failed lamentably. They both fell in severe depression. “…I was a successful business man in my community. Before having issues with my wife, I thought that money was everything to me. After getting into serious conflicts with my wife, I started losing appetite, spending nights without sleeping, feeling lonely as my wife left me and chose to live in a different house with children. I started taking too much alcohol, and life started becoming meaningless to me. I lost weight from 85 kg to 45 kg and became like a playground in the community. I became like a crazy person with no faith in life, until the time the Community Healing Assistants came to us and invited us to attend healing sessions with other selected community members. After 4 months of the healing journey, I can now sleep, I am progressively regaining my weight, my wife and I are reunited, our children can go back to school, we can grow food again, and our hope is revived. My sincere gratitude to UCP community healing assistants for making me alive again”!

Vicent

People

“The 1994 genocide against the tutsi occurred when I was 7 years old. I lost my parents, my siblings and other relatives. Consequently I didn’t manage to study properly. Once adult, I got married. I got children but the relationship with my husband was very challenging. We failed to live in harmony and we decided to divorce. The divorce worsened my genocide related-trauma. I attempted to commit suicide 3 times. I attempted to kill myself ingesting batteries, as I believed it would render me a good job in that direction, but I did not die. Life had become a heavy burden to me. One day the community healing assistants came to my home and sensitized me about the healing sessions. I agreed with gratitude as I was in a great need. The sessions were wonderful moments of meeting other community members, sharing our painful stories and sympathizing with one another. We were also including dances, songs and body exercises. I benefited much from the sessions as they could edify my soul and my body. I felt reintegrated in the society again and life became meaningful again. My joints had become stiff, but thanks to body exercises, I regained my fitness. I am now full of joy, peace and gratitude. I was dead but now I am alive, happy with another husband who loves me so much. Glory be to God who works through peace builders for delivering the victims from atrocities”.

Jane

People

“When the genocide against the tutsi started I was 11 years old. My parents and siblings were killed; I survived with some family members but I did manage to live in good terms with them. That situation caused me to misbehave and I ended by leaving the school. Family members decided to transfer me to Kigali. Once there, I kept my anxiety and felt traumatized. I became more than more depressed. Then I got married believing that it would be the end of my sufferings. Living with my husband turned into nightmares after some months together. We were in endless conflicts. He used to bit me so that I regretted why I got married to him. Sometimes I wondered that he despised me for the only reason that I am an orphan. I was so grieved. Our conflicts ended in a divorce and I joined another husband. The new family in law hated me more than the previous. I got so anxious and alone until I lost even the hope of living. I decided then to separate in order to feel a relief from all those negative forces that surrounded me. When I decided to come back to my home, it is the time I got the information about the healing groups. I was interested and started to attend. However, when I attended the first session, I met someone I conflicted with so that I was not free to reveal all the truth on my case. Later I dared to share my difficulties and felt satisfied by the experience. I learned much that contributed to upgrade my life style. I decided to get reconciled with all those we were conflicting with. I had disgusted my husband but now we are in a positive mood together, I am no longer feel alone, I edified myself, I share everything with everybody. I am grateful for the initiators of a program like this; I will announce it to many more people who might attend because they can acquire much from it that can liberate their hearts.”

Paul

People

“I am a married person with three children. I participated in the 1994 genocide against the tutsi. Then I was imprisoned until the President clemency released me. Though I was liberated from the prison, I was always guilty of my deeds during the genocide. I isolated myself. I felt unworthy to be with other people due to my status. I was like a cursed and excluded person. I felt less than a person. When I got informed about the healing groups I was still with those negative feelings. However, I got interested with attending the sessions. I met in the group the people I offended and the program gathered us and that contributed to feel better. I progressively get off from anxious and loneliness mood and I also get rid of the guilty and I started to feel again as a human being. In nowadays, when I talk with genocide survivors I no longer feel worried rather I feel relaxed. I am grateful for those who initiated the program, may it be spread to more people because it is very useful”.

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